When your littlies display naughtiness and they keep it up, it can be very frustrating and make you feel really mad! However, there are ways to deal with it without throwing a wobbly yourself.

All children try out their parents but there are a number of ways to nip it in the bud and stop it continuing. I have previously explained some strategies based on the American initiated Parenting STEP programme.

These strategies are based on the word DISCIPLINE.

D      Distract the child.

I        Ignore naughty behaviour.

S       Structure the environment.

C       Control the environment, not the child.

I        Involve the child through choice and consequences.

P       Plan time for loving.

L       Letting go.

I        Increase your consistency.

N       Notice positive behaviour.

E       Exclude them with a time-out.

One of the best things you can do for each of your children is to have some time alone with them every day. Time alone with Mummy and having a cuddle means they feel safe and relaxed and can share any worries they have. Give them your full attention and they will respond by talking about their feelings about different people and events. It helps you see things from their point of view and you can give reassurance and suggest new ways of dealing with daily situations.

In my book, “Parents Here’s your Answer”, I outline ways to be in charge and maintain the rules in a sensitive fashion.

• Mum and Dad need to be united about what is OK and what is not.
• They need to be good role models themselves.
• They need to praise and encourage when things are going well.
• They need to show love with hugs and cuddles.
• When bad behaviour seems to be brewing, use distraction and divert your child’s thoughts to something else.
• It is probably not wise to go shopping when your child is tired or hungry.
• Avoid saying “No” too much. Keep this word for dangerous situations such as crossing a road on their own.